I have long argued that orthodox monotheisms pruriance about human sexuality provided the motivation for creating and maintaining the trafficking and anti whore mythologies and hysterias. Feminism lost its way when as a movement it allowed a radicalised evangelical moralism to be voiced by so called feminists who bullied and silenced any opposition to their ideal of a good woman. The fact that ideal of “good” is rooted within a orthodox monotheist moralism should have been warning enough.

The Honest Courtesan

The most unpardonable sin in society is independence of thought.  –  Emma Goldman

As I have often pointed out, many of the beliefs presented as “political positions” these days are actually religions, and that includes those which sell themselves as “scientific” or “atheist”.  Any organized group which insists on “rigid adherence to a morality and interpretation of reality…derived entirely from knowledge revealed in sacred scriptures by [its] founders…[and] must be accepted unquestioningly by adherents” is a religion, no matter what it calls itself or whether it has a definable deity; it is based in faith, not science or logic, and any attempt to understand and deal with it as anything other than a religion is doomed to failure.  This is why the “sex trafficking” myth is so pernicious; its adherents believe in it just as Christians believe in the divinity of Jesus, and…

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I LIKE MARRIED MEN

I Like Married Men.

Posted on November 1, 2010 by DFHarlot

I have worked for 11 years as a male whore. I have made my living mostly from kissing straight men. My clients; you see predominantly identify as straight men. Most are married.

I like married men. Married men are easy and comfortable about what they are doing and what they require/want from me. They do not want a relationship or any social contact other than during the time they pay for my company. I like this. I want them as friends by the hour (or less or more depending) who will enjoy my company, want good sex and then leave. I do not want love. I have love. I am already married to a man with whom I have all the familiarity and love that any full relationship can offer and I do not want that compromised. Some people ask that if I am so happily married why do I do sex work, is my partner not jealous? I tell them the truth. I do sex work because I like money and because I have a very high sex drive. For me doing sex work is to be paid for doing something I really enjoy. Sex work is a perfect combination of pleasure with profit. My partner understands that my sex work is work, nothing more. It gives me pleasure and contributes financially to our joint income and he trusts me.

The public pretend not to understand the sex workers detachment from emotional involvement. I resond that the refusal to accept that sex can be pleasurable and fulfilling with out any emotional attachment simply reflects a self perpetuating, perhaps even psychological self harming guilt trip that persists within a society which blinkers itself to the failings of monogamy and of marriage. The reasons for this are complex. Could it be that for society to acknowlege the failing of monogamous and heterosexual marriage would also perhaps undermine the foundations upon which our culture is built ? We have many powerful institutions within our society that have a vested interests in maintaining the status quo. These institution use their authority to perpetuate no only the institution of heterosexual marriage but also the myths surround the institution. I think that the public, including minority groups such as gay men and women, because of social pressures just find it easier to perpetuate old idealisms of loving perfection within monogamy rather than chalenge the status quo. Would it not just be easier if society publicly acknowledged the emotional and sexual complexity that is the reality for so many people. Sex workers provide one solution. We are the imperfect fact of imperfect lives that help to maintain the façade of normality and happiness.

Love and sex with marriage as the cement that binds two people in sexual/loving domestic bliss is a fantasy for many and for some a cruel fantasy. This does not stop all of us desiring this perfection which we are told is the only thing that will bring us “true” happiness. Sex we are warned outside the confines of a loving relationship is not only less but perhaps even harmful and damaging to us both individually and as communities.

The reality however for many is often very different to this fairy tale fantasy. For most people, life and relationships are a succession of small, medium and sometimes bloody huge compromises that allow us all to compartmentalise our lives into manageable and viable segments. Sex like most things in life is about compromising our needs with the reality of our situation.

And so this is why I like married men. I am their little compartmentalised cock festival. I am their escape from the pressures they face to be men in a world that still evolves around old paternal idealisms about heterosexual monogamy and more importantly heterosexual notions of maleness.

Yes men can scratch their balls, have sly looks at other men in the changing rooms, tell each other rude stories and pat each other familiarly on the back. This is safe, trained, engineered behaviour. Men have been taught how far they can go to release their sexual/emotional steam within the confines of prescribed behaviour that actually stifles and entraps them further into conformity. Being a man is hard in a society that expects so much yet allows so few freedoms.

I allow married men to let their dark lusts run free and unchecked for a time. I take away their stresses before they return to heterosexual bliss in the arms of their wife or girlfriend. I; like all sex workers, male, female and trans men and women provide safe diversions for men (and women) to escape and indulge their sexual fantasies for a short time before returning to society less stressed and perhaps even more loving and caring. I Hope so.

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